Well, right now she's in her room. What do you think is the best way to discipline lying? Brad's always taught the girls that the worst thing you can do is lie, its way worse than the actual thing you did you're lying about. But Miss Abigail seems to think otherwise, and is lying at least a few times a day... things like "This piece accidentally fell off the piano all by itself." It was obvious that there is no way in the laws of gravity and force and all the laws of the world that it just randomly fell off by itself. She took it off, or played with it, and so it fell off. Not that it really mattered, but it was the fact that she lied about it. What should I do? Any suggestions?
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
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Ben went through a big lying period like that when he was about 4. So I told him that if he confessed to something he did wrong he could choose one of 3 punishments: a long time-out, being grounded from something for the day (like tv or friends), or an extra chore of my choosing. BUT, if he lied about it, he had to do all 3. That put a pretty quick end to the lying. I also pounded into his head the "mystical" power that parents have of ALWAYS finding out when you lie!
oh dear- I have no idea. my nephew is in a lying phase. Except he is lying about stealing things from other kids at school. Danielle likes to lie about if she went poo in her diaper.
ps I like the blue background- it is cute.
Thats a hard one. Maybe you could try punishing her big time for lieing and when she does something bad just talk about it, fix it, and move on. No real big punishment. Also.. My parents always played the Jesus knows when you lie and he will be very sad and disapionted with you. That's what guilt is. That's the best I got for now.
Children of that age have a hard time understanding lying and how and why it is wrong. By the time they are 8 they are aware when they lie and change more to exaggeration. Of course, anything bad happens by accident...If you can teach responsibility for actions thats the base issue...understanding of lying follows that knowledge of responsibility. Also, as parents and grandparents we constantly tease them and tell them things that are not true but we are "teasing" thats confusing for the kids so I never do it. Oops, maybe that was a little lie. mom
I would LOVE to know this as well. I have a five year old that out right lies about stuff not even worth lying about...and it's so frusturating and I have tried everything...even soap in the mouth...
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